Yes, Flower Girls add major cuteness to your wedding ceremony, but you’ve got to allow for the fact that they’re, well, children. Follow these advices, and you’ll increase your chances of having it go smoothly!
1. Make sure your Flower Girl Understands Her Role.
The first step you should take is to explain to her what this role means and what kind of responsibilities she will have. Most toddlers have never been to a wedding, so this entire experience might be completely brand new for her. Start talking about the wedding as far in advance as possible. Choose a time when the girl is happy and rested, and talk about why you would like her to participate. Tell her about the outfit she gets to wear, the actions she’ll need to take, and where she will stand. Listen to any fears or questions she has about the big day. Assure that everything is understood. It might be useful to get some books about being Flower Girl and ask the parents to add them into their regular bedtime routine. Here are some recommendations for you!
2. Make Her Feel Part of the Party.
Let the Flower Girl spend some time getting to know the bridal party; after all, she is part of it! These adults will surround her on the big day, which can be quite intimidating if they’re all strangers. More familiarity reduces anxious feelings. Include the flower girl in some of the prep. The morning of, ask if mom or dad can bring the girl by the salon for 10 minutes to get their hair brushed, or a quick swipe of lip gloss, which will help make them feel like one of the gang. A few little things like this can make the difference between a nervous Flower Girl bursting into tears, and an excited child happily showing off her petal tossing skills as she follows her new “big” friends down the aisle.
Especially for really small children, it’s good to have someone at the entrance of the ceremony to point the child in the right direction, as well as someone they will recognize at the end of the aisle. This person can be a focal point for them when they arrive in front of a big room of people.